tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post8424361328161681068..comments2024-03-06T05:16:16.411-05:00Comments on car on the hill: Response to "Paz"Frances Kuffelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14928021465309402200noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-85066078453562722952007-05-16T13:49:00.000-04:002007-05-16T13:49:00.000-04:00I hated reading what Paz had to say about you. I...I hated reading what Paz had to say about you. It could be said about all of Us. It was mean and uncalled for. <BR/><BR/>I am so proud of what you had to say in response. You ARE all those wonderful things Frances, and you amazingly share yourself with others and I am proud and thrilled to call you a friend!Laura Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07916626845812229646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-44376932452088877922007-05-14T17:18:00.000-04:002007-05-14T17:18:00.000-04:00My gut reaction is that Paz is simply somewhat of ...My gut reaction is that Paz is simply somewhat of an a-hole. That's all I can say, I tried to think of something else but I keep coming back round to that so I had to say it. I think you are fabulous.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06400492104098347769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-2033795181664360722007-05-14T13:43:00.000-04:002007-05-14T13:43:00.000-04:00You get a lot of anonymous cheers on your blog, to...You get a lot of anonymous cheers on your blog, too! Here's one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-14864410344012906552007-05-14T12:20:00.000-04:002007-05-14T12:20:00.000-04:00..."choosing." Where is the spellchecker when you......"choosing." Where is the spellchecker when you need it?Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15972291927652716856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-25905697582911522502007-05-14T12:18:00.000-04:002007-05-14T12:18:00.000-04:00Just a notion here. I think people who write, obs...Just a notion here. I think people who write, observe. Everything. They then write to share their observations. About everything. I think this gift is bred in the bone. We write about ourselves because we observe ourselves. This frequently drives the non-observers nuts. "Selfish" is the crushing label I continually try to battle out from under. Observant is what and who you are. Paz looks to be a non-observer...(hee,hee). Every butterfly you notice and comment on, is a waste of time for herm. "Get a life." Farts. What else is writing other than being immersed up to your arse in it? The road you are chosing is making all the difference.Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15972291927652716856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-68036737449136342292007-05-14T09:59:00.000-04:002007-05-14T09:59:00.000-04:00It is completely mysterious why someone would choo...It is completely mysterious why someone would choose to reach and slap someone, at least until one realizes that our society is chock full of narcissisticly impaired individuals full of rage waiting in the weeds for any suitable target. Interesting that narcissism is the charge that gets leveled at you, Frances. <BR/><BR/>One can only pray for a person like Paz who not only has an over-abundance of unexpressed hostility but is so fearful of retaliation that he/she has to hide behind the cloak of anonymity that the internet seems to offer.<BR/><BR/>Yet, whatever drives Paz, we are left to deal with the feelings he or she engenders in us -- the urge to fight back, the urge to feel shame, the urge to agree or disagree, to ruminate, to get back. I sometimes ask myself, why can't I just walk away from people like that? The urge to do something in response to Paz is too great, I guess.<BR/><BR/>Many years ago, Idi Amin (!) of all people, said this in response to a query about why he doesn't answer reporters' questions. He said, "I don't have to answer to every dog that barks."<BR/><BR/>Maybe, neither do we?Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05414508208712819014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-73431852900449412442007-05-13T20:43:00.000-04:002007-05-13T20:43:00.000-04:00I think you responded well to what "Paz" wrote wit...I think you responded well to what "Paz" wrote without resorting to name calling, etc. <BR/><BR/>It's more than what "Paz" could do. There's tough love and then there's just a smarmy know-it-all attitude pretending to be tough love. I think "Paz" is the latter. Name-calling and hiding behind an anonymous profile certainly doesn't reflect well on her/him. <BR/><BR/>How much weight has "Paz" gained, lost, and kept off? How many friends has "Paz" helped or talked to with problems? And does "Paz" have a life if this blog is so boring yet s/he reads it? If this is "tough love," perhaps Paz would like to share his/her blog and let us judge accordingly. <BR/><BR/>No one is perfect. It's also not very easy to share imperfections, flaws, mistakes, etc. while trying to find a balance in your life. You do this and you have encouraged a lot of other people to share their stories. You're talented, kind, funny, and a thousand other compliments. Are you perfect? Sorry, nope. But then none of us are perfect either. That's the way of the world. I hope you shrug off that negative post and remember all of the good ones.Lori G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02167055316077502640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-61722119338721654882007-05-13T20:09:00.000-04:002007-05-13T20:09:00.000-04:00I thought the whole point of blog writing was to b...I thought the whole point of blog writing was to be introspective, navel gazing, self-absorbed, whatever you want to call it. For me, my blog is the one place I can drone on and on about myself and not focus on other people and their needs.<BR/><BR/>So what if you choose to whine on your blog? It's YOUR blog! If some reader doesn't like it, they don't have to come back! Simple as that.<BR/><BR/>To reply with a superior, judgmental and name-calling post is really uncalled for, even if they thought it was the "kick in the pants" you needed. <BR/><BR/>You are brave in your honesty and your willingness to expose your flaws and imperfections. You're a talented writer and a kind hearted soul. I'm glad you know that.Vashta Naradahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18226872593870131074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-78458382270441685682007-05-13T19:01:00.000-04:002007-05-13T19:01:00.000-04:00I am hoping, like you said, that Paz really does h...I am hoping, like you said, that Paz really does have your best interests at heart and is just trying to do the "tough love," thing, but what is tough about writing a nasty comment and then ducking into the shadows? I don't trust someone who hits-and-runs with mean stuff but doesn't want to be part of a conversation (no email address, hiding his/her profile). <BR/><BR/>I think you're wonderful.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02700614225224691712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-84513924417820119882007-05-13T18:43:00.000-04:002007-05-13T18:43:00.000-04:00you inspire me to be a better person, a better fri...you inspire me to be a better person, a better friend, a better citizen.<BR/><BR/>nuff said.<BR/><BR/>xoxoFunnyBitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16754280190924901499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-30198574098162336852007-05-13T14:36:00.000-04:002007-05-13T14:36:00.000-04:00Go Frances!!! By the way you need to add "articul...Go Frances!!! By the way you need to add "articulate" to your list. I admire you that because it's something that is difficult for me.<BR/><BR/>I'm very proud of you for standing up for yourself. It's a sad fact that there are people in this world who are just plain mean-spirited and Paz appears to be among them.<BR/><BR/>Who needs to get a life? Well I think someone who has nothing better to do than read a blog he or she finds "SO boring" and then write mean comments in reply. That sounds like a very sad existence to me.<BR/><BR/>Your writings have inspired and helped many. If Paz is not a fan, let him go read elsewhere.The Cozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09864201416584073857noreply@blogger.com