tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post4954663045148081389..comments2024-03-06T05:16:16.411-05:00Comments on car on the hill: You Get to Have Friends...Frances Kuffelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14928021465309402200noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-85642445300545651722010-04-26T09:54:02.657-04:002010-04-26T09:54:02.657-04:00Darling Frances (that is how I always think of you...Darling Frances (that is how I always think of you) you made me cry in a very good way. thank you.Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-35034231935707057602010-04-24T02:13:07.028-04:002010-04-24T02:13:07.028-04:00Frances,
Thank you for sharing such a sensitive t...Frances,<br /><br />Thank you for sharing such a sensitive topic. You have been through a lot this past year, and perhaps the "crush" is a way of seeking support and diversion at a difficult time. Nevertheless, the crush sounds like something that was not meant to be, and that's OK. There will be better days ahead for you and you will find people who appreciate all you have to offer.<br /><br />I have been following your blog for some time and have recently gone back into a 12-step program with new commitment and understanding. Phone meetings and face-to-face meetings have been very inspiring. My best to you...may you always have peace, health, friendship, and love.E. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04079110676794095541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-70920024853987341572010-04-23T06:44:35.071-04:002010-04-23T06:44:35.071-04:00This sounds like high school and I HATED high scho...This sounds like high school and I HATED high school. <br /><br />Friends, the real kind, don't leave you twisting in the wind feeling like crap... no matter what you've confessed. A few years ago I had a similar experience, in that someone I cared deeply for (probably loved, truth be told) did not return my affections. However, when I professed my feelings, this person did not get defensive, did not try to deny anything (especially my right to have my feelings), but instead honestly and directly laid out the limits of our relationship. We are good friends to this day because of it. Occasionally I still long for more, but I keep it to myself and cherish the friendship that I do have instead of grieving the more intimate relationship that wasn't meant to be. <br /><br />Find yourself a real friend and be honest... and expect the same in return... and things should be better.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09036007550826655610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-55682602579110183132010-04-22T13:03:08.850-04:002010-04-22T13:03:08.850-04:00Hmmm. Also vote NO on the crush. I mean, if he'...Hmmm. Also vote NO on the crush. I mean, if he's got a sense of humor and can see you're over it then hanging out and offering each other dating advice and friendship IS an option. Harry sounds like a self-centered, selfish, immature hardass, better to be away from completely. Also? If he made you feel bad and made you feel defensive for admitting your crush, why would you WANT to be friends with him and keep him around?<br /><br />Unlike Vickie there, I'm struggling with people struggling with MY imperfections. I've embraced the big beautiful flawed ball of cute that I am -- why can't they??Elisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12180829634228467810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-53369862680479388862010-04-22T08:11:49.492-04:002010-04-22T08:11:49.492-04:00I love the whole thing together:
God grant me the...I love the whole thing together:<br /><br />God grant me the serenity to accept<br />the things I cannot change;<br />courage to change the things I can;<br />and wisdom to know the difference.<br /><br />Living one day at a time;<br />Enjoying one moment at a time;<br />Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;<br />Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;<br />Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;<br />That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next.<br />Amen.<br />--Reinhold Niebuhr<br /><br /><br />And my 20 year old son has decided NO - if the object of the crush does not return the feelings - move on in mind, word and deed - otherwise it just never resolves itself.<br /><br />And I struggle with the imperfections of others. It seems like if I am making good decisions for me - it would be nice if everyone else could have 'ordered thinking' and cooperate.Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.com