tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post2889249134505834069..comments2024-03-06T05:16:16.411-05:00Comments on car on the hill: "Please Update Your Blog"Frances Kuffelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14928021465309402200noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-67687382425847542682012-11-24T03:57:48.983-05:002012-11-24T03:57:48.983-05:00I've weighed 185 since the 1990's and I kn...I've weighed 185 since the 1990's and I know personally the ultimate failure of abstinence diets. I can get down to 160 but eventually I return to my set-point again. Only a 25-pound fluctuation, but it's just as ultimately inflexible and inescapable as any other overweight person's "yo-yo zone." I know better than to try to "diet" anymore. The reinforced helplessness just leads to emotional depression which our bodies then continue to personify. It's the wickedest Catch-22 ever. Frances makes such an important point about the central role of perpetual, chronic shame. Shame is amplified when a person is by nature an emotionally sensitive introvert with social anxiety. (Childhood/family bullies don't help, either). I share every one of these influencers, and I know anyone else who does would agree with me that Frances Kuffel is truly and deeply a brave person. If Frances should read this, I wish her to know that someone has been reading her words, heartening themselves by them, and doing their best to learn from the personal experiences she has been so heroically willing to share.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-84323538079290490612012-10-04T13:23:04.371-04:002012-10-04T13:23:04.371-04:00Hi,
Hang in there. Prayers for you - for all of ...Hi,<br /><br />Hang in there. Prayers for you - for all of us - keep up the good fight. You are worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-81611350890229251402012-09-24T18:37:48.868-04:002012-09-24T18:37:48.868-04:00120 pages gone? Fuuuuck. Don't be ashamed of g...120 pages gone? Fuuuuck. Don't be ashamed of grieving that--it's a shitload of work. I ditched a manuscript to Start Again and you bet I cried. <br /><br />I know you feel weak, etc., etc. but you are really an incredibly resilient person. You've done things that I'm still struggling to do. Hang in there.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-50103661257110021702012-09-04T16:47:26.611-04:002012-09-04T16:47:26.611-04:00I think everyone can understand this post. At lea...I think everyone can understand this post. At least I hope soMariannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15244175432624062751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-17974116971225297502012-08-29T10:33:05.652-04:002012-08-29T10:33:05.652-04:00I think the 7 Deadly Sins remain the same no matte...I think the 7 Deadly Sins remain the same no matter what century we're in, but I cannot agree that Shame is a sin. Shame is the outgrowth of a tremendous vulnerability which needs to be understood and managed, not condemned nor excoriated. It is one of the most horrible feelings as it turns in on itself again and again and paralyzes its host(ess)with constant new reasons for feeling it even more.<br /><br />I wish I had magic words that could relieve you of this burden but your native intelligence and obvious heartiness (in the face of such overwhelming feelings) encourages me to believe that you will find your way back to the Rooms and back to the Light.<br /><br />Wishing you the best,<br />Old Friend DebraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-10862780867013766182012-08-29T10:16:57.326-04:002012-08-29T10:16:57.326-04:00I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. Whe...I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. When I finished reading I had a strong sense that you need to get out of New York. But I don't know if it hurts or helps to say that. Maybe it is something you can discuss with your family and friends while you are with them. And maybe the routine of a " normal" job would help. Because the routine of having to walk your dogs at certain times does seem to help from what I understand of your postings. <br /><br />I wasn't sure if you are still teaching - ? It didn't seem likely if you are getting ready to leave for two weeks right as schools are underway.Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-84531720617454684492012-08-27T14:59:09.723-04:002012-08-27T14:59:09.723-04:00Hi Frances. This is Ewa from Poland. I'd like ...Hi Frances. This is Ewa from Poland. I'd like to thank you for your sincerity. Your pain and shame have a meaning. Writing about your pain and shame has a meaning. For example me, a 40 year old blonde somewhere in the city you'll probably never see is feeling less lonely and unhappy now. Got that XXXL t-shirt. God bless you or Nature bless you or whatever you believe in. Cyber hug.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-61799942771543265272012-08-24T17:06:30.809-04:002012-08-24T17:06:30.809-04:00Oh, thank you so much for writing again. I check ...Oh, thank you so much for writing again. I check daily and am so happy to see an entry, even though the words are about sadness and shame. You are not alone with either of those, been feeling a lot of sadness today and know shame well. <br />Sending cyber hugs.<br />LieslUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03190101908701213292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-72411602933836469302012-08-24T08:33:45.124-04:002012-08-24T08:33:45.124-04:00I wish there was something I could say to make it ...I wish there was something I could say to make it all better. Hang in there, Frances. Thank you for your vulnerability. Eating as a Path to Yogahttp://eatingasapathtoyoga.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com