tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post2002574373324959361..comments2024-03-06T05:16:16.411-05:00Comments on car on the hill: BlottedFrances Kuffelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14928021465309402200noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-22129558893585013002009-09-22T22:33:00.128-04:002009-09-22T22:33:00.128-04:00Dear Frances, Sometimes when you write about depre...Dear Frances, Sometimes when you write about depression, it's like you're reading my mind. When my depression is bad, I just feel flat and grey. Everything is a struggle. Other times I'm full of rage and everything and everyone irritates the hell out of me. Thank you for sharing. Leslesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-90388486989610465082009-09-07T17:20:51.558-04:002009-09-07T17:20:51.558-04:00You are a very talented writer. Your blog adds a l...You are a very talented writer. Your blog adds a lot of value to the blogosphere. Keep up the great work!RachelBhttp://fastdietexposed.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-63459115035251438642009-08-24T14:45:53.302-04:002009-08-24T14:45:53.302-04:00Fran witces,
I have been following your depression...Fran witces,<br />I have been following your depression and your efforts to manage again parents long distance. I have been going through exactly the same scenario myself for the past four years. I know this won't make you feel any better, but since I don't know anyone else who is going through this process (after spending the previous five years going through it with my in-laws) I<br />find comfort in the fact someone else is thinking and feeling the same things. I especially identify with someone who finds brushing teeth a sometimes insurmountable obstacle to the day. (Along with showering, doing laundry and finding acceptable food to feed myself.) There is great comfort for me in knowing that someone else feels this too. (And yes, even anti-depressives can do only so much...(<br />Your life double,<br />Nancy DrewAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-44482056947100261252009-08-24T14:38:00.872-04:002009-08-24T14:38:00.872-04:00My mother died eight years ago after a confusing a...My mother died eight years ago after a confusing and confounding period of four months beginning with her 90th birthday. I think of her everyday and treasure all my memories of the many years of her life and the transitions that we went through together, whether we were in the same room or, as often was the case, many miles apart. I think, but do not know for sure, that the passage from adult child (is that an oxymoron?) to adult making decisions for elderly parents is among the most painful of life’s transitions. I do know that it is the most painful experience in my life so far. The role reversal that is involved in taking responsibility for parents is devastating – perhaps to both parent and child, but it is often necessary. Suddenly we are losing the relationship that we have had with our parents most of our adult lives – still being a child in a sense. It seems to me that it is right to be overwhelmingly sad and a little guilty about it – it is so profound. We feel guilty about taking charge, angry that we have to do so, very sad that we have lost that fundamental child–parent relationship, and we grieve knowing that our life and relationship with our parent(s) will never be the same. I don’t often offer unsolicited advice, but will say that your pain seems appropriate and loving. Embrace it and yourself and be grateful for that very human emotion.AnnOfOrangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01327452412651824288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-14604062576325344222009-08-24T09:43:52.492-04:002009-08-24T09:43:52.492-04:00Patt J:
Oh, so sorry to read all this. There is no...Patt J:<br />Oh, so sorry to read all this. There is nothing more I can say. Please keep writing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-85696000923476594972009-08-24T06:57:43.679-04:002009-08-24T06:57:43.679-04:00Just reaching out my hand - Your on line friends c...Just reaching out my hand - Your on line friends care very much for you...<br />LynninRIAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-77019370182459975462009-08-23T23:59:20.186-04:002009-08-23T23:59:20.186-04:00So sorry.
JMoSo sorry.<br /><br />JMoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-30892198473884823522009-08-23T23:43:03.218-04:002009-08-23T23:43:03.218-04:00The twilight years of elderly, ailing/failing pare...The twilight years of elderly, ailing/failing parents are a series of deep losses for adult children. You are grieving these losses already and also feeling great sadness for your dad's predicament. It's terrible to watch them lose their freedom, their faculties... Being depressed is pretty normal under the circumstances. My heart goes out to you and to your parents.Anne D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03260726234117823644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-83355853536844687252009-08-23T23:03:45.942-04:002009-08-23T23:03:45.942-04:00I really have nothing constructive to say.....but ...I really have nothing constructive to say.....but as a food addict, and caretaker of an elderly parent; I wish I could hug you. <br /><br />LauraDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com