tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post6761404791130404445..comments2024-03-06T05:16:16.411-05:00Comments on car on the hill: Be it ever so humble...Frances Kuffelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14928021465309402200noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-40491223447248478302007-06-30T14:33:00.000-04:002007-06-30T14:33:00.000-04:00Welcome back Frances. xoxoWelcome back Frances. xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-18793391698429643422007-06-29T14:39:00.000-04:002007-06-29T14:39:00.000-04:00Welcome back and it does sound like you did some g...Welcome back and it does sound like you did some good work for your parents. You do look so pretty in your picture from May.Laura Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07916626845812229646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-17404597300312021352007-06-29T11:02:00.000-04:002007-06-29T11:02:00.000-04:00Actually, Frances? This is the anonymous commente...Actually, Frances? This is the anonymous commenter from minutes ago (and from a few other entries). I don't know if you're in the mood to meet any new people, even briefly, but I'm going to be in New York for a few days next month and would be delighted and honored if you'd care to have company on one of your dog walks, or for a simple stroll with Daisy.<BR/><BR/>I'd love to have a few moments to tell you how much your first book meant to me, if nothing else. If that does seem even remotely appealing, you can email me at juliacentric /at/ gmail {dot} com, and I can introduce myself properly.<BR/><BR/>Good wishes continue, no matter what.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-16577357350892959992007-06-29T10:53:00.000-04:002007-06-29T10:53:00.000-04:00Sounds like you navigated the trip, and your time ...Sounds like you navigated the trip, and your time with your parents, very successfully! Not perfectly, but pretty damn good in this anonymous reader's opinion.<BR/><BR/>Caring for/dealing with elderly parents is, in my opinion, the life passage least talked about in our society. Have you thought about writing about this? Perhaps editing an anthology of writing on the topic? I think it would be a big help, and you have the "platform" to make the project happen.<BR/><BR/>I like the new picture of you. The coral-colored sweater is adorable, and it's a great color for you.<BR/><BR/>As always, good wishes to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-1916196197326563362007-06-29T10:36:00.000-04:002007-06-29T10:36:00.000-04:00Welcome home. Nice blog change. Not so dark. Mu...Welcome home. Nice blog change. Not so dark. Much easier to read. The whole aging of loved ones is so scary. All that was nornal is going and gone. I notice changes monthly with Mary and she is in good health. I hate it. <BR/><BR/>Traveling and visiting and eating. A nightmare. Why is there so much salt in every damn thing we don't cook ourselves? We are a nation of aging baby boomers. None of us need all that salt. We should all rise up and protest. "STOP THE SODIUM NOW!" Glad you are home.Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15972291927652716856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-61671914114483242142007-06-29T09:00:00.000-04:002007-06-29T09:00:00.000-04:00I'm so glad you're back! It's hard to visit the p...I'm so glad you're back! It's hard to visit the parents and for me, any extended visit (say more than 8 hours), I revert to the fat teenager being good in front of them and sneaking out with the potato chips at night. <BR/><BR/>As imprisoned as you felt (and believe me, my parents have only loosened up in the past few years slightly), you provided a reprieve for your parents. I'm sure they get bored being at home and you came, fixed some things for them, arranged stuff for them. You helped them and provided another voice. And although you may not always know it, they were grateful to see their daughter again and hear what's going on in her life, even if it's not what you wanted to say. <BR/><BR/>You came back and you've done a lot that's the opposite of Phoenix; you've been out with friends, worked, wrote and got back in the game. I'm so proud of you for that. Welcome home!Lori G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02167055316077502640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-54557525225773545012007-06-28T21:10:00.000-04:002007-06-28T21:10:00.000-04:00Hi Frances, glad u are back. I am working through ...Hi Frances, glad u are back. I am working through the Beck diet solution. I have so much fear built around food it is crazy. I feel for you so, having to visit your parents and all, a lot of my food fear revolves around mine...well mostly my mother. She is not allowed to ask me if I have lost weight anymore. I have not told her this yet though. I am waiting for the next time she brings it up. I figured out just a few days ago that eating a meal is not fun for me.Using this cognitive approach I must sit down and be mindful of every bite. I resent it! I feel naked, alone, and angry with every bite I take. I feel like this whole thing is taking the pleasure out of food. I make a meal( a planned out meal) I set the table, I stare at the wall, I chew, swallow, I pay attention to every excrutiating mouthful. Quite frankly this is painful to me but the fact that it is so uncomfortable tells me that I must need to do it. So ironic because I always thought I loved to eat, but maybe what I really loved was the escape it gave me. Funny that it can be all about the eating and nothing about food at the same time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-6766624312839468452007-06-28T14:27:00.000-04:002007-06-28T14:27:00.000-04:00We missed you too, dear friend. Visiting aged p's ...We missed you too, dear friend. Visiting aged p's always brings up stuff within me as well as being a shock to see how much more fragile and limited they are than the last visit. I suspect your visit held similar things.<BR/><BR/>I've been there with you and Laura on the cookies. There's a good bit of old behaviors kicking in, as well as my normal stress of being out of routines and safety nets - and in proximity of Things I Shouldn't Eat.<BR/><BR/>I know Miss Daisy was thrilled to see her mama, lectures or not, and am so glad you're home safe. A nap sounds like a perfect plan.Anne M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08824355734094187786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-72326148652982764932007-06-28T14:26:00.000-04:002007-06-28T14:26:00.000-04:00We missed you too -- I am so glad to have an updat...We missed you too -- I am so glad to have an update of how you've been and to know you're back home and happy to be there. After the heat wave we've had here, I don't know how anyone could live in the desert or want to. I hope that you and Daisy settled down for a nice nap.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02700614225224691712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15680498.post-30689102119142575222007-06-28T13:32:00.000-04:002007-06-28T13:32:00.000-04:00Welcome home...glad you made it back. I understan...Welcome home...glad you made it back. I understand how boredom can be tricky to manage without food, but, you're home now and hopefully you'll be back on track in no time. It sounds like you were very much present for your parent's needs. <BR/><BR/>I cringed when I read the part about your mom asking for the cookies. I've been there. Since I last commented, I've had some big realizations and am actually dieting...we shall see. <BR/><BR/>I loved seeing there was a new post this morning!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com